1. intro
   1. questions
      1. how many married
      2. most recent married
      3. longest married
      4. happily married
      5. successfully married
   2. stats
      1. half of you will get divorced
         1. shortest married stats
         2. divorces after 20,30 even 50 years
      2. divorce in church is as high as secular stats
      3. the other side
         1. unhappily married people
            1. why
            2. shame and tradition
            3. beliefs
            4. can't afford to
            5. children
2. marriage could be
   1. happy
   2. successful
   3. fullfilling
   4. joyful
3. Jesus
   1. mat 5:19
   2. It was not so
   3. How was it from the beginning?
4. Question
   1. Why did you get married
   2. On a scale of 1-10 where is your relationship now
   3. if things don't change where will it be next year or 2?
   4. Where would you want it to be?
   5. What plans do you have to get it there?
   6. How would you get there?
5. Problem
   1. People have no plan
   2. get married on wave of love
   3. luke 14:28-30
   4. house plan
      1. maintainance
      2. up keep
6. in the beginning
   1. genesis 1:
      1. created
         1. land
         2. trees
         3. animals
            1. Recreation
         4. each other
            1. help meet
            2. naked
         5. reproduction
            1. sex
         6. food
7. Plans
   1. Genesis 2:
      1. help meet
         1. helper suitable for him
         2. Subtopic 2
   2. financial
   3. recreational plans
      1. social plans
   4. emotional plans
      1. meeting emotional needs
   5. functional plans
      1. shelter/home
      2. retirement
8. Clashing of the worlds
   1. traditional man
   2. traditional woman
   3. modern man
   4. modern women
   5. dealing with emotional needs
      1. general emotional needs
      2. gender specific
      3. cultural emotional needs
      4. personal needs
   6. getting your needs met
      1. motivating him or her
         1. intrinisic
         2. rewards
         3. punishment
   7. dealing with love busters
9. How