1. What is unloveable
   1. Spite you
   2. purposefully do things to hurt
   3. Covert and overt damaging
   4. hard
   5. Bible bashers
   6. Demanding
   7. Angry
   8. Maybe they let themselves go
   9. Change
      1. phylosophy
      2. attitude
      3. beliefs
   10. mental/addicts
2. Types of unloveable people
   1. inherently unloveable
      1. attitude
      2. personality
      3. jerks
   2. Things they do
   3. Things they say
   4. Things they not do or say
3. Examples of unloveable spouses
   1. Hosea's wife
   2. Wife/husband beaters
   3. critics and managers
   4. Unappreciative
   5. husband of abigail
4. Effects
   1. Annoyance
   2. Anger
   3. Resentment
   4. Bitterness
   5. Regret
5. How do you love
   1. Reframing
      1. Unstanding
         1. Spiritual warfare
         2. Background
         3. God is working on you to develop
            1. Think it not strange concerning fire trials
            2. patience lead to godliness
      2. Changing perception
   2. Decide to love
      1. remember vows
      2. Love your enemies command
      3. Pray
      4. Do good
         1. Good deeds convert
   3. Forgiving
      1. What is forgiveness
         1. What forgiveness is not
      2. Dealing with anger
         1. Levels of anger
         2. resentment
   4. Reconciliation
6. Main Topic 5