1. 4 reasons why God may want you single
   1. Use your life like as object lesson
      1. How
         1. Tell you
            1. Vision
            2. Dreams
            3. Talk to you
            4. Confirm it in your life
   2. You are a eunoch
      1. No desire for oposite gender
   3. For the gospel sake
      1. over powering desire to serve in the Kingdom
      2. All over desires pale in significance
      3. Willing to give all for gospel sake
         1. He counted it as dung
         2. he went through horrifying experiences and still wanted to continue
   4. You chose to be
      1. Personal choice not to be
         1. past experience
         2. can't be bothered
         3. pursuit of career
      2. No Skill
2. other than that God default will is for you to be in a primary relationship
   1. How
      1. Lets make man in out image
         1. God is Plural
            1. Trinity - 3 persons
            2. male and female made he them
      2. God said
         1. Its not good for man to be alone
            1. Let make him a helpmeet
      3. God commanded
         1. man to leave mother and father
         2. Cleave to his wife
         3. Fruitful and multiple
      4. Everything is centred around family
         1. ???? says
            1. When you begin to develop physically its time to start to prepare
         2. Pastor Chiwai
            1. Teens girls are ready from neck down
            2. Neck up isn't ready
         3. Everything should be seen as preparation to take care of family
            1. Education
            2. Career
            3. Wealth
      5. Society divorce life from family
         1. education/career etc
            1. Focus on self
3. God's will for your life
   1. Ideal will
   2. Permissive will
4. If God wants you why you are still single?
   1. Not your fault
      1. Virtually conditioned to be single
         1. Emphasis of society
         2. In most society placed great emphasis on young people getting married
         3. Getting married as a teen was not an issue
            1. Marry was a teenager
            2. Most of our fore fathers started families as teens
            3. Modern problem
            4. Teens are perceived as incapable
            5. extension of childhood
            6. Only unique to this culture
            7. Troublesome zoon
   2. Default position if you do nothing
      1. Society does not foster or encourage marriage
      2. Emphasis
         1. Education
            1. maority of fertile years taken up with this
         2. Carreer
            1. This dominates most of our time
            2. After education
         3. Wealth
         4. Fame
         5. Entertainment/fun/happiness
   3. Other reasons
      1. Circumstances
      2. Missed opportunities
   4. Ignorance
      1. Not sure how or what to do
      2. No idea of how to engage to other gender
      3. Myths
   5. Bad experiences
      1. Abuse
      2. Broken heart
      3. witnessing abuse of friends and family
   6. Not necessarily God
5. Methods of finding love
   1. Wait and see approach
      1. Wait and see the romantic salvation of God
      2. Waiting for God to send the one
         1. Cushy idea
            1. Makes us wait
            2. Gives us assurance
            3. Romantic success
            4. Myth
            5. Even if God told you the one
            6. Doesn't guarantee success
            7. eliminates risks
            8. Broken heart
            9. Choosing the wrong person
      3. Is there any Biblical examples
         1. Bible gives guidelines
            1. How to chose a great Spouse
            2. How to tell if he-she is the one - 1 cor 13.docx
         2. Shockingly no Biblical precedence
            1. Exception
            2. Adam
            3. Hosea
            4. Hosea was actually told to chose
6. biblical Dating
   1. main criteria
      1. Must be of the clan
      2. Many people involved
         1. Family
         2. Parents
         3. Benefits
            1. Safeguard
            2. Protect
            3. insulates
         4. Especially women
   2. seem against you making choice based on feelings
      1. Samson
      2. David and barsheeba
7. How
   1. Get a mentor
      1. Ruth and Naomi
   2. Develop a small master mind group
      1. Where 2 or 3 agree on one thing
      2. not more than 2-3
      3. People of the same mind
         1. Want the same thing
         2. Pray together
         3. pray together
         4. Share and empathise
         5. Exchange stories and testimonies
         6. Encourage each other
      4. meet periodically
         1. Electronically
            1. Skype
            2. hangouts
            3. watsup
         2. Phone
         3. In person
   3. Pray
      1. Spirit to lead
         1. Into all truth
            1. Whats stopping you
            2. How to engage
            3. Where to go and what to do
      2. Pray for your husband or wife
         1. Real person
            1. Struggles
            2. Difficulties
            3. Problems
         2. To meet
      3. Pray the God prepares you
         1. Challenges of
            1. marriage
            2. Family life
            3. Children
   4. Engage
      1. Go to the well