1. Internalizing the Revolution
   1. 怀孕妇女权益
   2. More women in power
      1. 说服力有限
         1. A truly equal world should be one where women ran half our countries and companies and men ran half our homes. I believe that this would be a better world.
         2. The laws of economics and many studies of diversity tell us that if we tapped the entire pool of human resources and talent, our collective performance would improve.
   3. We compromise our career goals to make rooms for partners and children who may not even exist yet.
      1. 确实无需为未来的事情过早担忧。尽是消极预测消极影响。
   4. 人各有志
      1. Many people are not interested in acquiring power, not because they lack ambition, but because they are living their lives as they desire.
      2. We each have to chart our own unique course and define which goals fit our lives, values, and dreams.
2. 1. The Leadership ambition Gap: What Would You Do if You Weren't Afraid?
   1. In comparison to their male counterparts, highly trained women are scaling back and dropping out of the workforce in high numbers.
   2. Many of these girls watched their mothers try to “do it all” and then decide that something had to give. That something was usually their careers.
   3. 女性在教育时期表现突出，但是进入社会后表现大不如男性
      1. Leadership ambition gap
   4. Female accomplishments come at a cost
      1. I was twenty-four and convinced that marriage was the first--and necessary--step to a happy and productive life
   5. 人生意义各不相同
      1. Raising children, seeking personal fulfillment, contributing to society, and improving the lives of others.
      2. Leadership roles are not the only ways to have profound impact
         1. 对有的人而言leadership的角色却是不重要
   6. 社会现状
      1. In my school’s computer science department, there are more Daves than girls.
   7. 职场女性的好处
      1. Employed women reap rewards including greater financial security, more stable marriages, better health, and, in general, increased life satisfaction.
   8. 无论性别，想在职场上成功都要尽量争取leader角色
      1. I told the members of the graduation class that they should be ambitious not just in pursuing their dreams but in aspiring to become leaders in their fields.
      2. You will find something you love doing and you will do it with gusto. Find the right career for you and go all the way to the top.
      3. So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren't afraid? And then go do it.
3. 2. sit at the Table
   1. <Feeling Like a Fraud> case
      1. 人人都有如是经历，但是女性更甚。一切源于不自信
   2. We consistently underestimate ourselves.
      1. 自我肯定
      2. 需要外界肯定，所以良好的伴侣或者朋友非常重要
   3. At every stage of my career, I have attributed my success to luck, hard work, and help from other.
   4. Case
      1. 自己和女性友人殚精竭力一学期，弟弟只是自信满满只靠最后突击。最后大家都是A
         1. Fact
            1. 女性低估自己同男性无来由自信同为天性
         2. Solution
            1. We need both an intellectual and an emotional adjustment
            2. 正面客观激励
            3. When I felt like I was not capable of doing something. I'd remind myself that i did not fail all of my exams in college. Or even one.
            4. Fake it till you feel it
            5. 生理反应和心理暗示作用巨大
   5. 自信对工作的影响
      1. When I felt like I was not capable of doing something. I'd remind myself that i did not fail all of my exams in college. Or even one.
         1. 自己求职的例子
      2. There is no perfect fit when you’re looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around.
      3. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have.
   6. We need institutions and individuals to notice and correct for this behavior by encouraging, promoting, and championing more women.
      1. JX对自己的正面影响
4. 3. Success and Likeability
   1. Women sacrifice being liked for being successful
      1. Most people really want to be liked
         1. 不过其实做让人尊重的事比做让人亲切的事情更重要
      2. Self-doubt is a form of self-defense
         1. 显而易见。问题是如何解决，而不是寻根溯源
   2. Case
      1. 姐夫在她面对工作offer摇曳不定时指出她的不自信
         1. No man at her level would consider taking the first offer.
   3. 女性必须be nice
      1. Women can increase their chances of achieving a desired outcome by doing two things in combination.
         1. First, women must come across a being nice, concerned about others, and “appropriately” female.
         2. When women take a more instrumental approach (“This is what I want and desire”), people react far more negatively.
      2. Think personally, act communally.
         1. Whenever possible, women should substitute “we” for “I”.
   4. 相反
      1. Nice sends a message that the woman is willing to sacrifice pay to be liked by others.
      2. A woman needs to combine niceness with insistence.
      3. Women need to stay focused, and smile
   5. 结论
      1. Learning to withstand criticism is a necessity for women
      2. When you want to change things, you can’t please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren’t making enough progress
5. 4. It's a Jungle Gym, Not a Ladder
   1. Fast growth company
      1. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, you don’t ask what seat. You just get on.
      2. The cost of stability is often diminished opportunities for growth
   2. 面对新机会
      1. They worry too much about whether they currently have the skills they need for a new role.
      2. Women need to shift from thinking “I’m not ready to do that” to thinking “I want to do that—and I’ll learn by doing it.”
         1. 我会努力学
         2. 我做了不就会了
   3. 争取promotion
      1. Women often believe that good job performance will naturally lead to rewards
      2. 当机制不够保障
         1. Advocating for oneself is necessary
      3. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.
         1. 客观肯定自己的工作能力
         2. 客观认识自己的权益和争取权益的能力
6. 5. Are You My Mentor?
7. 6. Seek and Speak Your Truth
   1. Speaking truthfully without hurting feelings comes naturally to some and is an acquired skill for others
      1. 自己是第二种
   2. We all want to be heard, and when we focus on showing others that we are listening, we actually become better listeners
   3. 面试者问的几个问题
      1. Thanks, but you must have ideas for me on what more I could have done.
      2. How can I do better?
      3. What am I doing that I don’t know?
      4. What am I not doing that I don’t see?
   4. 改进自己，聆听意见
      1. The truth hurts
         1. But worth it
      2. By mentioning this myself, I give others permission to bring up my impatience.
      3. Thanking them publicly encourages them to continue while sending a powerful signal to others.
   5. 工作和私人生活
      1. 不情绪化
         1. It's not a good idea to cry at work
      2. 工作和私人生活不可能完全分开
         1. 那怎么办？？？
8. 7. Don't Leave Before You Leave
   1. Women rarely make one big decision to leave the workforce. Instead, they make a lot of small decisions along the way, making accommodations and sacrifices that they believe will be required to have a family.
      1. Which is not right
   2. If I waited until the timing was exactly right, the opportunity would be gone.
   3. Personal choices are not always as personal as they appear. We are all influenced by social conventions, peer pressure, and familial expectations.
   4. Professional women need to measure the cost of child care against their future salary rather than their current salary.
   5. Anyone lucky enough to have options should keep them open. Don’t enter the workforce already looking for the exit. Don’t put on the brakes. Accelerate. Keep a foot on the gas pedal until a decision must be make. That’s the only way to ensure that when that day comes, there will be a real decision to make.
   6. 需要选择是否quit workforce时
      1. 客观分析利弊，做两手准备
      2. 不过早做结论
9. 8. Make Your Partner a Real Partner
   1. Anyone who wants her mate to be a true partner must treat him as an EQUAL—and equally capable—partner.
   2. Questions the father's efforts, he does less
      1. 任何时候鼓励的作用都大过责备
   3. Like all marriages, ours is a work in progress
      1. 循序渐进，不可一蹴而就
   4. Every stage of life has its challenges
      1. So does relationship or marriage
   5. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home.
10. 9. The Myth of Doing It All
    1. Trying to do it all and expecting that it all can be done exactly right is a recipe for disappointment. Perfection is the enemy.
    2. I learned to be a perfectionist in only the things that mattered.
    3. Counterintuitively, long-term success at work often depends on not trying to meet every demand placed on us. …Set limits and stick to them.
11. 10. Let's Start Talking About It
    1. Shutting down discussion is self-defeating and impedes progress. We need to talk and listen and debate and refute and instruct and learn and evolve.
       1. 说出来有得谈总是好的
    2. Explain how she was contributing to the company and ask for the promotion first.
       1. 勿用女权说话，用实力说话
    3. Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence
    4. A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes
       1. 如此定义女权人士，更容易让人接受
12. 11. Working Together Toward Equality
    1. 女性往往是最歧视女性，在职场上最不愿意帮助女性的
    2. We should strive to resolve our differences quickly, and when we disagree, stay focused on our shared goals. This is not a plea for less debate, but for more constructive debate.
       1. 求同存异
    3. But when I push past my own feelings of guilt and insecurity, I feel grateful.
       1. 摒除偏见和敌对在先，就能更客观，更感恩
    4. Society has long undervalued the contributions of those who work without a salary.
    5. We all want the same thing: to feel comfortable with our choices and to feel validated by those around us. So let's start by validating one another.
       1. Mother who work outside the home should regard mothers who work inside the home as real workers.
       2. and mothers who work inside the home should be equally respectful of those choosing another option.