1. pluralistic relativism
   1. non judgemental
   2. yes i see the dilemna and appreciate that there are very few things i believe to be absolutes
2. Patrix
   1. The Matrix of Domination
   2. Intentional -- WHO IS IT?
      1. I'm more inclined to believe it's a snowball often or a bully effect of one insecure kid that bullies othes creating convention
   3. WHO ARE THEY -- my experience is that people strive for wealth and power and attempt to hold down others by whom they feel threatened
   4. I appreciate the reference to cops in our head and how we all oppress ourselves and am fascinated by the contention that there are external creators of these standars
3. Liberation comes first
   1. Through this conversation, it would be easier for me to steer away from 'sexism' and call it personal development of good habits
      1. Chinese Teacher
   2. Sexism
      1. "Many men believe that eliminating sexism will cause them disadvantages"
      2. I'm not sure how I feel about this quote as I think it is lack of personal development as opposed to maliciousness that perpetuates -- I assume many men don't know how to help eliminate sexism (as many women don't either) -- and what exactly spreads sexism -- is eliminating Barbie dolls and new policies around affirmative action the goal?
   3. in some way, the contention that there is a cure is coming from a paradigm with the 'right' approach -- yes i know i'm being plurastically relative and issues surrounding class, sex, race, employment, etc. . . are layered. . .even if we are all on the samepage and fighting for equality.. .. . -- like virginia woolf message of is the true liberation of women in giving them equal wage to men or is it giving them dominion over the household . . .
4. Spiral Dyamics
   1. individual and community needs fractal like development
      1. Starbucks
   2. causal relationship between life conditions and ways of thinking -- ever evolving
      1. no meat
5. Decision making - alternatives to consensus
   1. consensus with unanimity
      1. tyrrany by the minority (joke about tyranny by autocracy (one), tyranny by the majority --> tyrrany by the blockers
      2. frequent locking, premature blocking, personal blocking
      3. i enjoyed the slight tweak of paradigm A vs. B -- we are here to heal the world sans environmental impact vs. B we are here to show others how to heal the world even if we have a little impact
   2. consensus with 80% majority
   3. Sociocracy
      1. Paramount objection -- need to create a win win solution or else moves up the circle to deal with blockers
   4. N Street Methodd
      1. New proposal mandated from blockers or else a 75% vote
   5. holoacracy
   6. Four choice method and choose our community members
   7. systemic consensus
      1. gradients of support for multiple choices
   8. solution oriented meetings