1. problem
   1. programming
      1. media
         1. radio
         2. tv
         3. books
         4. magazines
         5. people
      2. Instant love
         1. someone kindle love
         2. knight in shining armour
         3. e.g instant success
            1. stars vs practice
2. Wrong question
   1. How not where?
      1. How can I meet some I want to be with
         1. brain storm 10-ideas
   2. Ask your self where would your potential partner be hanging out
      1. job
      2. recreation
      3. friends
   3. location
      1. location
         1. emotional
            1. Are you emotionally available
            2. do you have space in your life
            3. still attached to ex
            4. in dead relationship
      2. location
         1. space in your life
            1. do you have the time
            2. are you too busy
            3. are you willing to share
            4. resources
            5. privileges
            6. accountability
            7. space
            8. head
            9. house
            10. life
            11. do you actually have the need for someone
            12. ask opposite gender friend
            13. are you too independent
      3. location
         1. physical
            1. type of friends
            2. birds of a feather flock together
            3. could add or detract
            4. places
            5. visit
            6. attend
   4. Are ready?
      1. handle moods and emotions of someone else?
      2. can you life with someone else in close proximity
      3. can you handle conflicts
         1. conflict resolution skills
      4. do you have life skills
         1. handling finance
            1. yours
            2. someone else
         2. managing home and house
            1. cooking
            2. cleaning
            3. washing
            4. bill payment
            5. shopping
      5. Why do you want a relationship
      6. Are you aware of your needs
         1. emotional needs
            1. attention
            2. affirmation
            3. acceptance
         2. how do you want people to love you
            1. gifts
            2. spending time together
            3. telling you verbally
            4. acts of service
         3. do you understand your own personality
      7. Are you clear about
         1. deal breakers
         2. requirements
         3. preferences
      8. can you meet someone else need
      9. what lifestyle would you want
3. how
   1. categories
      1. out and about public places
         1. general
            1. libraries
            2. supermarkets
            3. bus stops
            4. out and about
            5. walks
            6. DIY stores
         2. recreational
            1. sports events
            2. concerts
            3. parties
            4. raves
         3. educational
            1. seminars
            2. workshops
            3. conferences
            4. public lectures
            5. classes
         4. professional/work
            1. colleagues
            2. associates
            3. clients
      2. single settings
         1. single events
            1. online sites
            2. local community
         2. media
            1. radio
            2. call in
            3. appear
            4. tv
            5. finding partner programs
            6. news paper
            7. ads
            8. letter to the editor
         3. online
            1. dating sites
            2. general
            3. niche
            4. Forums and groups
            5. interest
            6. hobbies
            7. interests
            8. social networking
            9. other
            10. I saw you
            11. we met on a plane
            12. introducing your friend
      3. target rich places and events
         1. men classes
         2. dancing classes
         3. cooking classes
         4. golfing
         5. football
      4. Special interest activities
         1. sports
         2. meetings
         3. clubs
         4. classes
         5. business seminar/workshops/meetings
      5. Highly aligned places
         1. political groups
         2. Spiritual
            1. church
            2. conferences
            3. convention
            4. camp meetings
            5. workshops
         3. campaign
            1. stop hunger
            2. stop blood shed
            3. green campaign
            4. domestic violence
      6. your network
         1. Start with who you know
            1. friends
            2. relatives
            3. colleagues
            4. acquaintances
      7. You
         1. become attractive
            1. become what you are looking for
            2. find friends of similar ilk
            3. clarity
            4. pictures
            5. write it out
            6. make a list
            7. ppt
            8. video
            9. detachment
            10. emotional needs
            11. fill your emotional needs
            12. borders and principles
   2. Things to do
      1. go out everyday someone is looking for you
      2. make new friends
         1. 1 new general friend a week
         2. 1 new special interest friend a month
            1. someone who has qualities you are looking for
            2. doesn't matter what gender
            3. they would have similar friends
         3. 1 new opposite gender friend
            1. any friend
            2. age
            3. ethnic group
      3. take up new hobby or interest
      4. New
         1. club
         2. place to visit
         3. shop
4. Create opportunity
   1. Volunteer
      1. charity
      2. events
      3. mans shop
      4. surveys and polls
      5. join a campaign
         1. poverty
         2. climate
         3. green
         4. religious
   2. media
      1. radio
         1. call in
         2. appear
      2. tv
         1. finding partner programs
      3. news paper
         1. ads
         2. letter to the editor
      4. be active
         1. churches
         2. groups
         3. clubs
   3. Create events
      1. parties
      2. social events
      3. get together
      4. focus group around your hobby
      5. Classes
      6. Start a campaign
   4. Attract
      1. be the change you want
         1. dress
         2. talk
         3. walk
      2. have like minded friends
         1. birds of a feather
         2. let go of people who are not aligned to you
      3. Clarity
         1. be clear in your mind what you want
      4. detachment
      5. boundaries and borders
      6. power of new
         1. places
         2. church
         3. group
         4. friends
         5. hobbies
         6. you
            1. clothes
            2. hair style
            3. values
   5. current opportunities
      1. people interested in you
      2. people you are interested in
      3. recommendations
5. What if you are shy?
   1. Get someone to intro you
   2. start with joining groups events you are interested in
   3. Don't start cold calling
   4. have an excuse to talk to people
      1. waiter
      2. events coordinator
      3. greeter at party/church/events
      4. survey and polls
   5. Wear a smile
   6. put yours in the environment
      1. someone will approach you
   7. make it easy for people to talk to you
      1. wear a badge
      2. a book/mag/newspaper
      3. clothes with writing
         1. uniform
         2. t-shirt
      4. unique hairstyle or item of clothing